On the day I am writing this, I am 22 days sober. This week, more than any before it during my sobriety, I have been ground hogging like a champ. There has been a distinct lack of coherent thought and focus on achieving any goals.
The new lockdown, about to hit the UK, has hit my mood pretty hard.
The thought of working from home is the stuff of my nightmares. Hours spent on my own, looking at a screen, took me to a very dark place last time.
I was barely functioning and had daily thoughts of suicide. My drinking also hit its worst.
Hello Mark, Its The Universe Calling!
I don’t know if I believe that the universe sends us messages. But the last few weeks it seems like it has has something to tell me. It hasn’t been subtle, either.
I get the message…..human connection is vital to my wellbeing.
When I went back to work my mood lifted. It felt good to be around other people.
Getting back to a recognisable routine also helped. Having a reason to get dressed, commuting, face to face meetings. It all helped. Seeing people, not just hearing their disjointed voices on a Teams call, was a massive boost.
My Recent Reading List
Every book I’ve read recently has advised that connection is vital to living a good life.
Let’s Do This by Andy Ramage
Younger Next Year by Chris Crowley & Henry S. Lodge
Genius Foods by Max Lugavere
This Naked Mind by Annie Grace
Each one of these books has made it loud and clear, I NEED HUMAN CONNECTION!
Thats all lovely and the universe can send me as many messages as it likes. But its ignoring one major problem.
I don’t like people. Don’t trust them. Don’t make friends easily. I am crap at maintaining the friendships I have had. The second someone lets me down its a big goodbye – ironic because I am usually the one doing the letting down.
Its all part of being an introvert.
It’s also part of being uncomfortable around people.
If I am going to get through this new lockdown sane, then it’s time to get out of my comfort zone. Time to make more connections. Time to stop being a dick head.
Before I turn my goals towards physical health and nutrition, connection must be my main focus. Its the one thing I have been terrible at all my life. The return to work demonstrated how much being around people helps my mental wellbeing. I need to remember that.