75 days alcohol free.
It’s 6.09am on Christmas Eve. I’ve already been to the shop, to pick up the last bits. There are always “last bits”. Bits we never need on any other day of the year and can live without easily.
I came to the realisation, a while back, that part of the reason I’ve struggled for the last 18 months is lack of control. This just got worse during lockdown.
Every time I tried to get a routine going, something happened to upend it. Thats what I mean by lack of control. I don’t need total control over everything, just the ability to set my own agenda for certain things.
What to do about this? Its the small wins, pretty sure every self-help book talks about those. This is where I started. Simply by reading again. Gathering ideas, re-learning forgotten knowledge. Reminding myself what works.
What Works For Me
Every morning, for the last few weeks, I’ve been doing a combination of three approaches to goal setting and self-care.
Andy Ramage’s Let’s Do This!
This was the starting point. It invigorated me and gave me some fresh ideas, mixed with some I’d used to stop drinking. This kick-started a new morning routine of journalling.
This is what I end up with most days – I never thought I’d be doing stuff like this, but then I never thought I’d stop drinking either. Thats working out pretty good so far, so why not try different things.
Before I started those numbers were mostly 2 and 3. They also help target where I need to focus next.
Hal Elrod’s The Morning MIracle
A book I read years ago, but decided to re-visit. Lots I forgot. This helped me evolve the morning routine. I now have structure in the morning and have regained some control over a part of my life. I start each day in a good place now, which helps me cope with whatever happens after.
I’m not totally there yet with coping, but I am a lot better.
I’m exploring meditation. I kept getting recommendations on Audible and Youtube for the Wim Hof method. So, I explored.
The first morning I tried it (after I’d de-frosted) I was buzzing. Drove to work with a smile on my face. I’ve also noticed, in the last week, I’m happier and calmer.
I don’t know if this is a combination of all I am doing, but its working.
I’m also reading The Kindness Method by Shahroo Izardi – this one is like therapy, in a way that is approachable.
This is more for setting the long term goals and not relapsing in to old ways. I can keep something going for a couple of years, but always fall back to old ways.
This book is an alternative approach to those I’ve used before, so we will see how it goes by 2024.